Essay: Arranged marriages

Believe it or not, arranged marriages do last longer than loved ones. Arranged marriage is a marriage arranged by family members, usually the parents. In other words it is defined as a marriage where the marital partners are chosen by other, based on their considerations. Although an individual’s marriage is arranged by their family members but it reveals the dedication of two hearts, the marriage is successful and compared to love marriages the divorce rates are low. Despite of arranged marriages being set by family members, they can be more thriving, flourishing and long lasting compared to love marriages.
To begin with, arranged marriage couples have the demand and desire to understand each other. In arranged marriages, love grows more by time for the couple, day by day. ‘Love is expected to grow as the spouses learn more about each other as the years go by’ (Myers, Madathil and Tingle, 2005). As a couple spends more time with each other the bond gets stronger. Therefore, understanding each other over a period time eventually will result in long lasting union. In arranged marriages, couples with different perspectives, ways of thinking and goals are committed to live together. ‘When you’re appreciative toward your spouse, he reciprocates’ (Seth, 2008). The partners in arranged marriages have a type of understanding where the couple spends time with each other to understand their needs and desires. Moreover, as the couple approaches to understand each other, this results in a western dating mode; where each partner tries to impress the other, in order to make the couple successful. In arranged marriages, the partners have the potential time to know each other well. They both try to adapt to each other’s culture and traditions with logic in order to keep the relation to last longer. By questioning rather than accepting traditional statements about the need to be together, the original collection both make us understood that what makes a couple and what deepens the appreciation for the human needs that coupling meets (Kimmel, 2002). As a matter of fact Kimmel states that questioning your spouse may lead to better understanding rather than expecting what it is and how it is. The more questions asked, the more the couple would understand each other. The arranged marriage couple tends to respect their partner’s culture and traditions. Therefore, this relationship results in a respectful relationship. Above all, couples in arranged marriages tend to spend more time with their partner to make their relationship long lasting, flourishing and passionate.
Involvement of parents in arranges marriage is beneficial as they know their child’s desires more than anyone. One should marry someone whom their parents know very well. As parents raise up their child and they are aware of their child’s preference. The key consideration is that the potential mate should be situated with a set of relations who are known through prior association to another person in that effective network (Epstein 1961). As a matter of fact, parents ensure that what is right and what is wrong for their child. Therefore, approaching the decision of their child’s spouse, they are comprehensible and specific on their decision to ensure the right match for their child. Thus, leading towards the right partner for their lifetime, whereas in a love marriage, an individual may choose a wrong partner based on ‘want’ rather than their ‘needs.’ Secondly, the high degree of compatibility of parents’ help and support formulate the divorce rate in arranged marriages low. The globally average divorce rate on arranged marriages is 4% (UNICEF, Human Rights Council, ABC News, 2012). Divorce rates: Sweden-54.9%, US-54.8%, Russia-43.4%, UK-42.6%, Germany-39.4%, Israel-14.8%, Singapore-17.2%, Japan-1.9%, Srilanka-1.5% and India-1.1%. The aforementioned statistics conclude that the divorce rates are below 55%. In some countries such as India, the rates are low than expected. This is due to their family’s culture and religion. As religions play a vital role in countries like India, as their religion restricts them to perform divorce for the reason that divorce is looked down upon. Thus, their religion, leads the couples to compromise with each other, resulting in a low divorce rate. Lastly, arranged marriage does not only strengthen the bond between the couple but it also strengthens the religion and family bonding. If the relationship with family is strong, your heaven exists, otherwise your life is black and white (Aline, 2001). Furthermore, Aline shows the importance of the family bond. Arranged marriages are advantages towards family bonds, as a child trusts its parents’ choice. Whereas a love marriage without the parent’s content, breaks the family. Looking at aforementioned evidences, it is proven that arrange marriages decreases divorce rates and strengthens a family bonding.
Arrange marriages have the benefit of being dedicated, liberal and compliant. A strong sense of commitment is the powerful advantage of an arranged marriage. Arranged marriage is based on mutual trust and understanding rather than just ‘love at first sight’ (Sahani, 2013).To clarify, the partners, therefore, tend to show love and respect towards each other rather than showing some other exterior sides. Commitment brings both of the partners together and the love eventually grows. At the same time, low expectations can play a huge role in arranged marriages which can lead to an unexpected successful marriage. In this case, the marriage works out well because the things aren’t as bad after all (Fox 1975). Low expectations lead to low disappointments. None of the partners know exactly what to expect from the other, so they are eventually happily surprised by what their marriage has become or has yet to become. Arranged marriage couples have the tendency to adjust with persistence and forbearance. Patience and tolerance is the key towards the success of one’s victorious end (Gandhi, 1948). Gandhi was a great man, who fought against the British individuals without being violent. As arranged marriage couples depict Gandhi’s act by accepting their spouse without any complaints. Additionally, they try to strengthen their bond by respecting and accepting each other. Consequently, arranged marriage couples have the tendency for acceptance, patience and moderation to strengthen their alliance.
Even though arranged marriages have many disadvantages, it has many more advantages by which it creates a strong bond and the relationship lasts longer than loved ones. Alas, arranged marriage couples have the power to understand, accept and compromise with each other, in order to depict their parents’ respect and tradition. Compared to love marriages, arrange marriage have higher chances of being successful. Physical attraction can be blinding. Mutual trust and strong commitment are what are needed to make a strong bonding in the marriage. Without those components, relationships don’t last for long. Hence, along with mutual trust and strong commitment, love eventually grows which makes the arranged marriages last longer than love marriages.
To begin with, arranged marriage couples have the demand and desire to understand each other. In arranged marriages, love grows more by time for the couple, day by day. ‘Love is expected to grow as the spouses learn more about each other as the years go by’ (Myers, Madathil and Tingle, 2005). As a couple spends more time with each other the bond gets stronger. Therefore, understanding each other over a period time eventually will result in long lasting union. In arranged marriages, couples with different perspectives, ways of thinking and goals are committed to live together. ‘When you’re appreciative toward your spouse, he reciprocates’ (Seth, 2008). The partners in arranged marriages have a type of understanding where the couple spends time with each other to understand their needs and desires. Moreover, as the couple approaches to understand each other, this results in a western dating mode; where each partner tries to impress the other, in order to make the couple successful. In arranged marriages, the partners have the potential time to know each other well. They both try to adapt to each other’s culture and traditions with logic in order to keep the relation to last longer. By questioning rather than accepting traditional statements about the need to be together, the original collection both make us understood that what makes a couple and what deepens the appreciation for the human needs that coupling meets (Kimmel, 2002). As a matter of fact Kimmel states that questioning your spouse may lead to better understanding rather than expecting what it is and how it is. The more questions asked, the more the couple would understand each other. The arranged marriage couple tends to respect their partner’s culture and traditions. Therefore, this relationship results in a respectful relationship. Above all, couples in arranged marriages tend to spend more time with their partner to make their relationship long lasting, flourishing and passionate.
Involvement of parents in arranges marriage is beneficial as they know their child’s desires more than anyone. One should marry someone whom their parents know very well. As parents raise up their child and they are aware of their child’s preference. The key consideration is that the potential mate should be situated with a set of relations who are known through prior association to another person in that effective network (Epstein 1961). As a matter of fact, parents ensure that what is right and what is wrong for their child. Therefore, approaching the decision of their child’s spouse, they are comprehensible and specific on their decision to ensure the right match for their child. Thus, leading towards the right partner for their lifetime, whereas in a love marriage, an individual may choose a wrong partner based on ‘want’ rather than their ‘needs.’ Secondly, the high degree of compatibility of parents’ help and support formulate the divorce rate in arranged marriages low. The globally average divorce rate on arranged marriages is 4% (UNICEF, Human Rights Council, ABC News, 2012). Divorce rates: Sweden-54.9%, US-54.8%, Russia-43.4%, UK-42.6%, Germany-39.4%, Israel-14.8%, Singapore-17.2%, Japan-1.9%, Srilanka-1.5% and India-1.1%. The aforementioned statistics conclude that the divorce rates are below 55%. In some countries such as India, the rates are low than expected. This is due to their family’s culture and religion. As religions play a vital role in countries like India, as their religion restricts them to perform divorce for the reason that divorce is looked down upon. Thus, their religion, leads the couples to compromise with each other, resulting in a low divorce rate. Lastly, arranged marriage does not only strengthen the bond between the couple but it also strengthens the religion and family bonding. If the relationship with family is strong, your heaven exists, otherwise your life is black and white (Aline, 2001). Furthermore, Aline shows the importance of the family bond. Arranged marriages are advantages towards family bonds, as a child trusts its parents’ choice. Whereas a love marriage without the parent’s content, breaks the family. Looking at aforementioned evidences, it is proven that arrange marriages decreases divorce rates and strengthens a family bonding.
Arrange marriages have the benefit of being dedicated, liberal and compliant. A strong sense of commitment is the powerful advantage of an arranged marriage. Arranged marriage is based on mutual trust and understanding rather than just ‘love at first sight’ (Sahani, 2013).To clarify, the partners, therefore, tend to show love and respect towards each other rather than showing some other exterior sides. Commitment brings both of the partners together and the love eventually grows. At the same time, low expectations can play a huge role in arranged marriages which can lead to an unexpected successful marriage. In this case, the marriage works out well because the things aren’t as bad after all (Fox 1975). Low expectations lead to low disappointments. None of the partners know exactly what to expect from the other, so they are eventually happily surprised by what their marriage has become or has yet to become. Arranged marriage couples have the tendency to adjust with persistence and forbearance. Patience and tolerance is the key towards the success of one’s victorious end (Gandhi, 1948). Gandhi was a great man, who fought against the British individuals without being violent. As arranged marriage couples depict Gandhi’s act by accepting their spouse without any complaints. Additionally, they try to strengthen their bond by respecting and accepting each other. Consequently, arranged marriage couples have the tendency for acceptance, patience and moderation to strengthen their alliance.
Even though arranged marriages have many disadvantages, it has many more advantages by which it creates a strong bond and the relationship lasts longer than loved ones. Alas, arranged marriage couples have the power to understand, accept and compromise with each other, in order to depict their parents’ respect and tradition. Compared to love marriages, arrange marriage have higher chances of being successful. Physical attraction can be blinding. Mutual trust and strong commitment are what are needed to make a strong bonding in the marriage. Without those components, relationships don’t last for long. Hence, along with mutual trust and strong commitment, love eventually grows which makes the arranged marriages last longer than love marriages.